The proving of a man
I think that how a husband loves his pregnant wife really proves what kind of man he is.
There's something about my husband loving me inspite of my whacky preggo hormones, my must-be-had-right-now cravings, my lack of ability to be creative in the kitchen while dealing with incessant waves of sickness and ever-present exhaustion ("Do you want mac and cheese or canned soup tonight?"), the laundry piles he must wade through to dig out something to wear (Hey, at least it's clean laundry!), the wife who can't seem to keep her eyes open past 8 p.m. most nights thus necessitating that he take over all evening bedtime duties with Kathrynne because Mommy is stuck under the covers "sawing logs"...
And you know what? He doesn't just love me inspite of all this, he refuses to allow me to apologize for any of it. Any time anything close to an apology begins to leave my lips he looks at me with a sparkle in his eye, stops me, and says, "Honey, you're doing a much bigger work than any of this stuff. I don't care about the messy house or the quick dinners. I care about you taking care of our baby."
What a husband! I'm so unworthy of him and someday I'll demonstrate it to him by making nicer dinners, folding and putting away all the laundry, taking back over the bedtime routine, and maybe, just maybe, not being so hormonal. But for now, I can sweetly smile and collapse under the covers knowing that my husband loves me for just who I am - even when I'm pregnant.
There's something about my husband loving me inspite of my whacky preggo hormones, my must-be-had-right-now cravings, my lack of ability to be creative in the kitchen while dealing with incessant waves of sickness and ever-present exhaustion ("Do you want mac and cheese or canned soup tonight?"), the laundry piles he must wade through to dig out something to wear (Hey, at least it's clean laundry!), the wife who can't seem to keep her eyes open past 8 p.m. most nights thus necessitating that he take over all evening bedtime duties with Kathrynne because Mommy is stuck under the covers "sawing logs"...
And you know what? He doesn't just love me inspite of all this, he refuses to allow me to apologize for any of it. Any time anything close to an apology begins to leave my lips he looks at me with a sparkle in his eye, stops me, and says, "Honey, you're doing a much bigger work than any of this stuff. I don't care about the messy house or the quick dinners. I care about you taking care of our baby."
What a husband! I'm so unworthy of him and someday I'll demonstrate it to him by making nicer dinners, folding and putting away all the laundry, taking back over the bedtime routine, and maybe, just maybe, not being so hormonal. But for now, I can sweetly smile and collapse under the covers knowing that my husband loves me for just who I am - even when I'm pregnant.
posted by Crystal Paine at 5:41 PM
23 Comments:
Aww, that is sooo sweet. I just hope my husband will be half as wonderful when we finally have children.
What a great guy Jesse is! But don't worry b/c he's right--you're doing a lot of work carrying that baby God's given you.
Crystal, I was laughing so hard when I read your post because I am going through the exact same things right now. I feel like a bundle of hormones right now; but I know God is even able to be glorified by me in this seemingly chaotic state. Stable husbands are such blessings especially at times like these. Prayers for you!
Amen to that!!! My poor hubby is dealing with the same things (except bedtime times 5). I'm quite worthless past 1 pm. :-P
An unselfish husband is a great blessing...I know, I have one too!
Somehow Crystal, I understand so well now the meaning of "Seasons in our lives". Isn't it good that our husbands understand this too and remind those of us who are the "all or nothing" types. Hee hee.
God has so many infinate ways to teach and mold us....who ever thought that being pregnant could teach you so much! :-) Line upon line, precept upon precept......and on and on and on and on and on and on..........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
This morning God had me wake with thoughts of a poem about the refining of His children as silver. Thought it a precious subject for blogging which unfolded with relative Scripture. Then your post was read and made me think how blessed believing wives are that have Ephesian 5 yielded hubbies(and how blessed believing ladies and gentlemen are to be the bride of Christ).
Here is the post(scroll to read the Ephesian's reference), if anyone is interested. http://portrayingfemininegrace.blogspot.com/2006/11/bride-refining.html
God is so good to those that are His workmanship: Sola Deo Gloria!
Wow that is wonderful! You are blessed and it is obvious that you really realize it. What a blessing.
Yeah, he sounds like a keeper:)
That is so nice! I am sorry you are feeling sick.....
How precious. That made me grin like an idiot.
It's wonderful when God gives us such a gift in the form of thoughtful husbands.
My husband is doing much of same in our house right now since I've found out that I'm pregnant with our second child. The morning(AKA all day) sickness has been nearly unbearable, not to mention the fatigue. He's been so loving and patient!
It's another opportunity to praise the Lord for His love and grace in our lives!
May God continue to bless you and the little life you're carrying inside of you! Keep up that hard work! :)
It makes you fall in love w/ him all over again, doesn't it?! God bless our wonderful husbands! You have such an eloquent way of putting things. I'm thinking back on my own experiences w/ pregnancy and my wonderful hubby totally stepping up to the plate and holding down the fort. During the (short) season of the first trimester uggghs, it's so easy to loose sight of what a special and incredible thing the Lord is doing...not just knitting our precious ones in our womb, but knitting together the hearts of each special and unique little family. I look forward, w/ much anticipation our next little one(s)...my baby girl just turned one, and she's gonna be an awesome big sister one day...just like Kathrynne will be. Enjoy this special time. You have a terrific hubby!
Blessings dear~~
Amy B.
how sweet! that's wonderful for you. how much easier does it make your life when your energy is drained! God bless 'im. :)
Awwww.... :-)
We all can't be SuperWoman, even though sometimes I wish I were, but thankfully we all strive to do our best every day and that's all that matters.
Now with you being preggers and taking care of a toddler, instead of trying to do all the housework and meals in one day, do one or two big things each day. Like do all the laundry (folding, ironing, etc), then maybe make sure the bathrooms are clean and tidy, and be done for the day. No need to wear yourself out, there is always another day!
By the way, I got the coupons in the mail last week and they are a blessing to me! ;-)
Aww! Thanks for sharing. And I am so excited for you!! I was just thrilled to hear your news. I know how much you've been wanting this!
I know exactly what you mean. My husband and I had a rocky first couple of weeks (long story). I thought that he would stop loving me. Than I get pregnant a month after we were married. I was so sick, as I've mentioned before, and was totally useless. He was absolutely wonderful from the time he saw the positive test until the day I frantically called him from work to tell him my water broke.I was such a lump and felt sorry for my husband. Not much of a honeymoon. I realized in those months what true love really is. I understand that God had us have a baby that quickly to strengthen our marriage and let me see how strong my husband's love was for me.
My husband is not the typical traditional male that feminists make men out to be. He is perfectly capable of working and taking care of himself...and his family.
"Husband, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it..." Ephesians 5:25
We're hoping for our third and I worry about the stuff you mentioned: letting the house get crazy (I'm a bit of a neat freak), feeling sleepy all the time, chasing after my other two toddlers...
You're post made me smile and remember what a trooper my hubby was the last 2 times and how blessed we are!
Sounds like a wonderful husband!
I have been admiring my husband in the same way. This is our first so he doesn't have to do any toddler care, but he has been doing so much around the house and always trying to find ways to make me feel better. I work outside the home full time and I have lost all energy for household work when I come home. I am going to try what dawn marie suggested, one thing per day. That sounds manageable!
What a husband you have!!! I'm so happy that Jesse is taking care of you because he is certaintly right, you are doing soo much right now by just taking care of yourself and your peanut! My husband was just the same way and I feel soooo blessed, esp since I am still working and am pretty much useless at home once I got home from work at 6:30pm, more so in the early first trimester! I do have so much to show my thanks to him when the baby finally arrives and I can get back to my normal self! Happy nine months!
Btw, how did you your first labor go? This is my first and I am using a midwife and planning to birth at a birthing center or home.
i'm SO right there with you-- without the little one running around already. we're pregnant with our first and i couldn't be more blessed with how my husband has handled me thus far in the pregnancy (i'm at 31 weeks!).
it truly is a blessing!
I was so encouraged to hear that you too have piles of laundry, a messy house, and less-than-gourmet dinners. I'm 8 weeks and going through every single thing you mentioned. I printed it out and handed it to my husband--"Do you agree with her husband?" LOL I was only joking with him, because I too have been blessed with a very patient understanding man. He has been great through all this. This is our fourth, so I guess he's used to it by now.
Your schedule looks really good. I have something similar right now--very basic.
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